Sex Therapy

What is sex therapy, and when would someone need it?

According to the International Society for Sexual Medicine:

Sex therapy is a form of counseling intended to help individuals and couples resolve sexual difficulties, such as performance anxiety or relationship problems.

Clients generally meet in the therapist’s office. Some choose to attend sessions alone; others bring their partner with them. Session frequency and length usually depend on the client and the type of problem being addressed.

It’s normal for clients to feel anxious when seeing a sex therapist, especially for the first time. Many people have trouble talking about sex at all, so discussing it with a stranger may feel awkward. However, most sex therapists recognize this and try to make their clients feel comfortable. Often, they start with questions about the client’s health and sexual background, sex education, beliefs about sex, and the client’s specific sexual concerns.

It’s important to know that sex therapy sessions do not involve any physical contact or sexual activity among clients and therapists. Clients who feel uncomfortable with any aspect of therapy should speak up or stop seeing that particular therapist.

Sex therapists usually assign “homework”—practical activities that clients are expected to complete in the privacy of their own home.

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Work with me

As a sex therapist, I focus on meeting the client where they are at, making every effort to understand their perception of the problem or issue. Many people experience sexual concerns, but come to realize what they are going through is totally normal!

Other clients are experiencing sexual function difficulty in the form of erectile dysfunction, anorgasmia, etc. My approach to these issues is to be as open and supportive as possible as we discuss ways to address these issues. I aim to help clients feel as little shame or self-blame about their difficulties as I can.

Sex therapy can provoke lots of anxiety for people who have never tried it before, or for people who are just not used to talking about sex (which is almost everyone)! I try to make the process of sex therapy as comfortable as possible for clients.